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11-08-2018 05:57 PM
11-08-2018 05:57 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Awwwww - @Shaz51
What can I say - sometimes it gets so hard for you - how DO you deal with all of this
I know he has an MI which makes it hard but you are working for your mother actually - as her carer - so this makes it really confusing
There are times when I am really glad to be on my own
We have had bad weather with extremely heavy rain today - too windy to walk yesterday - and at 7.30 am it was dark enough to be the middle of the night - heavy cloud and during the afternoon - it was really dark again
Fun - how often there is someone or something else happening
Thinking of you Shaz
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12-08-2018 01:40 PM - edited 12-08-2018 01:43 PM
12-08-2018 01:40 PM - edited 12-08-2018 01:43 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Hello @Sophia1, @PeppiPatty, @Former-Member, @Owlunar, @Faith-and-Hope, @Determined, @Former-Member, @Adge, @Former-Member, @Appleblossom, @Margot, @Former-Member, @Wenna
sending you all hugs for today
Today - it is ME
My cousin was up for a few days and everyday she went up to the hospital to give my mum legs and hands massages whih is lovely
went to mum`s for morning tea and she says she is missing the massages , I sai i will come and do them , ohh itis alright
she wants me to do things to help her but then she says no
if i go to do something she says leave that and have a cuppa with me
I have lots of different feelings going around -- it is crazy !!!
My SIL is looking afther MIL and just goes and does things -- ( maybe too much ) as MIL tells me all about her being treated like a child which shedoes not like but she won`t say anything
my mum is soo independent but she tells me want she wants help with but then she says no
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12-08-2018 02:14 PM
12-08-2018 02:14 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
That sounds totally confusing for you @Shaz51 Very mixed messages - yes help, no don't.
Frustrating & disheartening.
Sorry, I haven't got much to say to help.
I feel like I've been thrown out with the garbage (into the garbage bin) today.
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12-08-2018 02:22 PM
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12-08-2018 02:46 PM
12-08-2018 02:46 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
It ain't easy getting old @Shaz51 I think I would fiercely hold onto any independence I had too.
Doesn't make it easy though for the ones caring as our loved ones refuse help even when we clearly see them losing their skills and sometimes their marbles too.
I'll be first in the queue for a massage if one is on offer 😀
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12-08-2018 04:05 PM
12-08-2018 04:05 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Did someone say massage?
Yes please (me too) @Former-Member
I'm sure that @Shaz51 would like one.
It's good that your cousin was able to give Mum massages - a shame that you couldn't have one too.
Speaking of marbles, I've already lost most of mine - I don't have to wait till I'm old.
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12-08-2018 04:53 PM - edited 12-08-2018 04:56 PM
12-08-2018 04:53 PM - edited 12-08-2018 04:56 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
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12-08-2018 04:58 PM
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12-08-2018 05:32 PM
12-08-2018 05:32 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
hello @Adge @Shaz51 @Former-Member
I think that a few of us could put our hands up re losing marbles...
how many are we supposed to have to begin with?
then of course there are all of the different colours and sizes...
I remember when they were the all the fad ...before the sports cards took off...
the marbles had names ...colours...sizes...my boys were into that....there friends would come over with theirs and then the swaps would happen...
independence yes...I think that I am going to be extremely difficult....I am independent enough now...
nice that your mum preferred you to share a cup of tea with you though Shaz...she values your company...
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12-08-2018 08:29 PM
12-08-2018 08:29 PM
Re: Ups and Downs of Husband`s Mental Illness
Think you got more going on than me - Shaz, YIKES! its good for me to watch ways how to cope.
Hang in there xox