WayAhead

I can definitely see how hard it was for you for your wife not to bond with your youngest.

BPD seems to affect mostly relationships. I can see it from your darling's side - if she doesn't bond, then she won't get hurt. This is because the pain of getting hurt is so real and so painful, that it is better to avoid attachment in the beginning.

Do you think this relates?

Possibly @tyme 

But I suspect (and only a feeling so I may be off base) I believe she was at the point of leaving (Had an influence that could only be described as evil) but after getting pregnant she felt trapped. And kind of blamed bub 😥