WayAhead

@avant-garde 

The situation with your friend sounds frustrating.  I;m not sure if you've tried it, or if it would make any difference, but have you tried explaining it to her by focusing on how the actions make you feel rather than what she's doing wrong?  So rather that telling her she made the wrong decision, you could say that it just upsets when you're not asked about things like that.  Maybe she would be more open to change if she felt that it was more about you than her doing something wrong. 

Just a thought.