WayAhead

@MedicinalGypsy oh totally fair you want to protect your husband from potential collateral damage hun. 

Oh I totally know the feeling - I can have a hundred amazing coping tools but when we're outside our window of tolerance it can seem like it's all gone! I know it may not help you right now, but writing out a list or having a 'coping plan' of some sort can be handy - so you don't have to do the work of trying to think of or remember anything in the moment! 

I am going to be logging off soon, but I will tag the next @moderator and hopefully they can stop by and check in with you. 

Remember your breath too - it's very basic, yes, and I know it's also very tiring to hear it all the time, but for me it is my very first tool for regulation. Our inhale speeds up our heart rate and our exhale slows it down, so by making our exhale much longer than our inhale for a minute or so, it actually works to slow our heart rate - which can help us to feel calmer, and signal to our brain that we're not in danger. In for four counts, hold for five, out for eight - that's my fav breath tool to slow me right down from panic, rage, and overwhelm. 

Calling a support line is also always an option! 

Lifeline: 13 11 14 or Crisis Chat 

Suicide call back service: 1300 659 467 or online counselling 

Samaritans: 135 247 

If in immediate danger: 000 

Night hun, catch you next time, please be gentle with yourself - you will get through this, I believe in you 💜