Negotiating Grief with honour

[Jarvis]

Hi everyone! This is my first post.

My dearly loved father, my dad, passed away on Thursday night in hospital. I was with him as he passed. 
I am struggling with his passing but knew at the time, it was an honour to be with him through that transition. My heart is shattered and even though I was there, I still can’t quite believe it. 
Does anyone else relate please? I would like to chat with someone who knows and understands what I am saying and going through. Thank you.

[Appleblossom]

@Jarvis I love your idea of negotiating grief with honour. It must feel so raw and fresh. Much kudos to you for being there. Gradually it may become a treasured memory as you deal with life unfolding. I have never been present when loved ones have passed, but have lost a lot of people.

Honour your own unique grief journey.

just tagging a few people 

@rav3n @tyme @Jynx 

[Snowie]

Hi @Jarvis 

Firstly, welcome to the Sane forums. I hope that you find it as supportive as I have.

I'm so sorry to hear about your Dad. It sounds like he was a huge part of your life.

I too was with my Dad in the hospital room when he passed away. In one way I was at peace knowing he wasn't in pain anymore, but in another way I still wanted him here with me.

Whilst it has been awhile for me, there are times when I still expect him to walk through the door or give me a call.

We all grieve in our own way, and I don't think anyway is right or wrong. It is not something that I think we ever get over either. Yes we may come to accept it, but it still hurts.

[Jarvis]

Thank you so very much for your response and support. 🥰

[Jarvis]

Thank you for your kind words and support. Sorry for loss also.

[tyme]

Welcome to the forums @Jarvis ,

I hear the grief you are going through. As difficult as it is, grief is a very natural process and there is no time line for grief to end. You may be interested in this thread Coping with Grief  

Would you like to celebrate his life with us?

[Till23]

Hi @Jarvis sorry to hear about the passing of your father.

It is a very difficult situation to negotiate and is in the top 5 of stressful life events.

My father passed away last year. 

I am available to chat with you if you like.

[Jarvis]

How so? Re: “Celebrate his life with us?” @tyme 

I am interested in your proposal but need to know more. Cheers

[Jarvis]

I would absolutely like to chat with you about my dad and managing Grief. I think we could be a support to each other. ❤️‍🩹

[snowflake231]

@Jarvis 

Firstly I'm very sorry to hear about your dad. It's so tough. 
I was also present when my grandmother whom I've been very close to passed and it's something I will never forget. I'm happy to chat if you like.