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17 Apr 2025 09:04 PM
17 Apr 2025 09:04 PM
I'm sorry @avant-garde my attention has been split this evening. I can understand that it might make you feel nervous, but alas it is probably gonna happen from time to time. It's never cos I don't care, and I am always happy to make time for ya whenever I can 😊
However, I am always very happy for you to double-tag me (as in, just tag me again) to check if it's cos I'm spinning too many plates, or because the tab got lost somewhere. I'm always happy to be transparent about what I got going on!
18 Apr 2025 07:16 PM
18 Apr 2025 07:16 PM
Sharing is draining, it makes it so much more real and makes me notice the hurt...
18 Apr 2025 07:28 PM
18 Apr 2025 07:28 PM
Hugs @avant-garde ,
You are so so so brave. I hear the pain and how real this pain is.
I'm sitting with you.
18 Apr 2025 08:18 PM
18 Apr 2025 08:18 PM
It hurts...
It hurts so much...
I'm right when I say it takes a community to abuse a child...
Everyone who I was meant to be able to trust failed and abused me... Teachers, doctors, pastors, adults.
Abuse doesn't just happen in the home, it happens everywhere they choose to not take notice and not help.
I stand by the statement that evil wins when good people do nothing. Not many people understand why I stand behind that so strongly, it's because I had so many people growing up do nothing and that was more confusing and hurtful than the actual abuse. At least the abuser doesn't give you hope so you can't have your hopes dashed anyway...
18 Apr 2025 08:25 PM
18 Apr 2025 08:25 PM
I stand by the statement that evil wins when good people do nothing. Not many people understand why I stand behind that so strongly, it's because I had so many people growing up do nothing and that was more confusing and hurtful than the actual abuse. At least the abuser doesn't give you hope so you can't have your hopes dashed anyway...
Thank you for drawing this to my attention. Makes so so much sense. In my past life, I was told: If you see something that's not right and you don't do anything, then you are condoning the behaviour.
I guess this is something similar?
What does support look like for you at this time? @avant-garde I want to make sure I get it right - as much as I can.
18 Apr 2025 08:32 PM
18 Apr 2025 08:32 PM
See where I kind of suck at answering that question because I often don't know how to put what I need into words.
That's why I do *actions* with Jynx... I know what I feel like doing and that right now would be sitting curled up in a corner but not wanting to be alone in the corner.
18 Apr 2025 08:36 PM
18 Apr 2025 08:36 PM
I'm sitting with you in that corner @avant-garde . I'm as close or as far as you feel comfortable. I'm okay with silence, but I'm also okay with you sharing.
18 Apr 2025 09:00 PM
18 Apr 2025 09:00 PM
It took over 20 years for someone to not ignore or participate in the abuse...
18 Apr 2025 09:03 PM
18 Apr 2025 09:03 PM
I'm listening @avant-garde
You are a survivor. At the same time, I'm not going to deny the pain and suffering you have endured.
18 Apr 2025 09:14 PM
18 Apr 2025 09:14 PM
You know why my faith is so strong? because it wasn't just Christians that failed and abused me, therefore it wasn't exclusive to Christians, sin is the common denominator between Christians and non Christians alike... especially if those Christians weren't Christians at all...
Jesus is different...
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