Running

[tyme]

So it's give and take I guess @avant-garde ?

[avant-garde]

@tyme yeah they balance each other out well

... something happened this morning that just had me frozen...

[tyme]

doesn't sound too good. @avant-garde  I'm listening if you feel you want to share (if it is in line with guidelines). No pressure though. I just want to give you space in case you wanted to share.

[avant-garde]

@tyme I'm ok if you edit, I do my best to stay within the guidelines 

TW: sexual references

Content/trigger warning

i was at my usual Thursday community group and one of the more elderly ladies comes in and says she's late because she got pulled over for a breathalyzer, except she didn't call it that, she discussed it as a certain sexual act...
The next half hour they were talking about her authority fantasies and other instances involving costumes of... yep...

some of them know my history, I noticed they didn't say anything either, I just froze and very intently focused on my fidget

[tyme]

I can see how that can be so distressing @avant-garde ... that's totally NOT okay. Yet I've also seen and heard it at work places too. And it really needs someone to be an upstander and not take that sort of talk. 

I hope you find a way to work through it or even speak to the person.

[avant-garde]

@tyme can you see why I froze?

[tyme]

Yes yes @avant-garde . Totally uncalled for...

[avant-garde]

@tyme 

you know how triggers immobilise you? your head just fixates into survival mode...

[tyme]

Totally.. it's like a re-traumatisation. Unexpected and uncalled for. @avant-garde 

How do you think you will manage tonight? What are things you can do to unwind?

[avant-garde]

@tyme I'll be fine, I will do what I always do... cope. TV, nonograms, currently updating my laptop to test quiz presentation. Have a few things to research too.