Lived Experience Forum

[Owlunar]

Hi @WinterSun 

I am sorry you too have been bereaved buy suicide  - this is so hard to find a way through 

For you it's 18 months - not long ago at all 

For me it's 34 years next month  - time passes slowly and we can be a little easier with it- it never goes away though- we survivors need each other 

@Milo1 

Dec

[Owlunar]

Thanks @Maggie 

I always respond to suicide survivors  if I notice them 

My pain feels easier today though I am  very tired and decided to sleep in 

But my public wanted me  - several phone calls later and it seems I am up to posting which has to be an improvement 

I have to catch up with everything - I hope you are okay

Dec

[WinterSun]

Thank you for your thoughts

@Dec @NatureLover 

@Darcy for tagging me

@Dec yes it is such an awful road to travel

and I am conscious as time goes by of how 

many things he and we miss out on. Birthdays, weddings and extension of family.

My husband has often said it’s like a violent murder has been committed but there is no 

perpetrator to hunt.

I understand what it’s like to feel a failure as a parent that this has happened. I only know that if it was up to me  -

it would never have happened.

WinterSun

[Owlunar]

You are right @WinterSun 

The deaths of our children could never have taken place on our watch but they have free will like everyone else and they made  a terrible choice that we have to live with 

It has felt to me that I failed but did I,?  Really? I wasn't there. He was in 

Juvenile Detention and I thought he would  be safe - he wasn't 

You are right though  - justice can never be served  - somehow we have to find thar peace within urselves 

I'm so sorry 

Dec 

[Former-Member]

@molly26 shared grief.

[molly26]

Oh it is still so very raw for you.  3 + years ago it was my son.  Wish I had some words of wisdom to help with the world of pain you are in. Each day it's wee steps. I know your road to find some peace will be a bumpy one. Take care 

[Milo1]

Hi, Sorry I don't know how to reply to everyone so here goes. 
My son was 26 years old & had mental health issues & had been in & out of hospital for the last 18 months. The system let him & us down so so badly. We tried everything to get him the help he so badly needed & deserved. 
The whole family is really struggling, I've contacted a few places about counseling but with Covid-19 most places are zoom or phone calls & I would like to have face to face as finding it really hard to talk on the phone. 
Thank you to everyone for all your lovely words of support & kind words. 

[WinterSun]

Hi @Milo1 

Have you been in touch with your gp ?

I don’t know what state you live in but here in

nsw the coroners were able to provide information on support services and a counsellor in our area.

With things easing hopefully you can get an appointment in person, a grief counsellor or one specialising in suicide.

We didn’t attend a support group until around 5 months later and I would credit it as being the most beneficial in helping us move forward.

WinterSun

[Maggie]

@Milo1  Just dropping off a gentle hug. 💜💜 Sometimes there are no words to adequately say what you would like to say. Sitting with you in this devastating time. 💜💜💜

[Milo1]

Hi Wintersun,
I’m in Vic so our restrictions aren’t easing anytime soon. I’ve actually got an app tomorrow with a counsellor so hopefully it might help.