Something’s not right
hi everyone yesterday seemed very positive to begin with ,I had a good day for most of the day and was being as positive as I could be smiling at strangers at the shops and petrol station and for the day it finally felt like I was getting some things done,doing errands,geting out of the house ,appointment went well in terms of centrelink obligations,I had a message and a call from a recruitment agency which could lead to me gaining a Job and the weather was helping my mood yesterday as the weather was sunny ,after that I visited some family an aunt of mine she always listens and understands my emotional/mental health issues
but then a family member whom Im estranged with for a year now he showed up at aunts place and it was hard because he just does what he always does when he sees me he ignores me,keeps his back turned to me doesnt go near me mind you another family member was keeping him company and I was with my supportive aunt thank goodness and thank goodness she doesnt take sides I just wish the estranged family member would change their behaviuor in positive way cause I can see its caused a huge amount of stress for the rest of the family his behaviour I wish he would just talk to me though I wish we could talk things out lets just say without going into past details it was a big falling out thet happend and in my eyes it happend as a result of his bad behaviour towards another family member whom I was supporting because of the resulting issues that happend after the incident,the incident was family violence but that was over a year ago anyway I felt closed off yesterday when he showed up and honestly I dont know what to do to repair things with him emotionally,and should I even be the one to fix things when he was at fault for physically harming a family member whom I care about honestly families are hard sometimes,some old wounds where opened yesterday emotionally leaving me thinking I dont know what to do about any of it and what has my family come to in terms of all the issues everyones been through since then or as a result of what happend then.
Hi @LostAngel, sending lots of support to you, that sounds like it would have been really unpleasant, particularly the opening up of old wounds. And probably unexpected too, so it sounds like you could not have prepared for this, which can make it especially confronting
I'm glad there we still good parts to yesterday, and it sounds like you have amazingly supportive aunt. People like her can really help us get through situations like this, so I'm glad she could provide some safety and comfort for you in an otherwise unpleasant situation.
It's a great testament to your character that you care so much about your family that you want to help them to heal. A gentle prompt to consider, though, that the responsibility to do that isn't all on you. I do relate, though- I find it very easy to feel like I need to make everything better. It's very burdening, though, and not realistic- the responsibility is ultimately everyone's. Be gentle with yourself, and take care 💗
mmm thats true its everyones responsibility ,thank you for your support ,one thing I need is a good night sleep or lately alot of sleep,its easy to let family problems get me down at times,Im ordering pizza for dinner tonight and mayybe some netflix as at times my phone messages have been annoying,thats not to say that everythings terrible but as you understand family issues can be burden 
