Seeking mutual support from carers

[outlander]

@Bella1978 missing you too. 💜🌟💙🌟❤🌟💕

[Bella1978]

@outlander
Miss you more, and our chats. I think of you often. Think of me being there giving you a big hug and not letting go xxx

[outlander]

Thanks @Bella1978 and when things get tough for you then imagine me doing the same ❤ trying my best to be ok but its not working very well yet

[outlander]

Hi @Bella1978 

ive read back on this thread and also another thread youve got on th LE side. You said you feel your depression and anxieties are worsening too.

Ive got maybe a few tips that might help you if your interested in hearing them? And I can also teach you some of them too (and as things arise and you need abit more support as well). Only if your up for it though

are you still walking? Making sure your eating? Drinking? Sleeping? Getting abit of time to yourself? Trying to do something for yourself each day? Are you speaking to carers aust still? Any news on the support group?

(sorry thats a lot of questions!) ill um leave things there just for now.

[outlander]

@Bella1978

[Bella1978]

@outlander

OMG that picture is tooooooooooooo cute! you are one of the most selfless people i know sweetheart. you have so much going on in your own life and you are there for others. that is a very special quality to have. we have really connected on this site, and im glad we have *mwah*

yes, my depression and anxiety have been worsening since mum got home. i guess ive been on high alert and overworrying. i know i need to try and keep it together, its so hard though when there is so much emotion involved. of course, i would love to hear your tips and would be grateful if you could teach me some of them too.

yesterday, i went for a drive and visited a friend in the arvo, was a good distraction for me. she actually used to care for both of her parents so understands the stresses we go through. I just needed to get out of the house. last night was crappy, very emotional, did some journalling and crying and finally went to sleep. i also went for a walk this morning and im trying to get my eating better. seeing my uncle this arvo also helped as i could talk things through with him and he knows my mum very well. there are times when i feel so alone but was nice to be able to talk to him. as for carers australia, yes im still in contact with them - i need to reschedule my counsellors appointment, and still need to look into the support group. there is one actually called 'helping minds'- not sure if you have something like where you are luv. it is a peer support group for carers who look after someone with mental illness. i think i answered all of your questions 😉

im sitting in the lounge room while mum has a rest. every time i try and chat to her, she just wants to stay quiet. at least we can keep each other company i guess!

xxx

[outlander]

im glad too @Bella1978 its good to ahve someone to really connect with on here isnt it. ive got lots of forum friends but only a short few i really connect with so it makes it even more special to me.  also i read your posts on my thread but i need to stay away from there for a little bit before my head explodes with my own thoughts but can combined bits and pieces here. 

i read that you think your mum may have been dishcarged abit early and you want to ring her psych. i think thats a good idea for both her and you. itll ease your worries as well as alert her psych that maybe things arent as well as they seem. with stubborn people who shut down it can be hard to get a clear picture on whats going on. 

im really glad you were able to talk to people offline who get it too. it really helps doesnt it. im supr glad to hear your still in contact with carers aust and havent ruled out the support group. i hope you can find one for yourself. it would be lovely for you i think. 

i am more than happy to share some strategies and tips with you. it seems  you may be struggling with anxiety and being overwhelmed the most am i right?

[Bella1978]

@outlander

i totally understand that you want to stay away from your thread - i can imagine that you would have a lot to read through! you are so special to a lot of people on these forums. such a beautiful soul you are.

i definitely need to alert mum's psych to how she is feeling atm. she isnt herself. she is clearly depressed 😞

definintely feel overwhelmed with things atm, and i also find that my mood can depend on how mum is feeling - which i know is not healthy but it does effect me. feeling depressed as i feel helpless and it breaks my heart to see mum unwell. *sigh* trying to keep it together as much as i can.

would love to hear some tips and strategies luv.

x

[outlander]

oh no its not that, i appreciate the post just storing away those thoughts atm so i can be here more again @Bella1978 i can show you some of my artworks on here if you like but later. i want to give you  a hand first. 

you are human! of course how shes feeling affects you. by the way you describe her shes also a close friend as well as a mum and thats rather special  

ok give me 2 seconds to type up a strategies post for you- please bare with me ok

[Bella1978]

@outlander

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RR0BlQzbOUk

xxxxx