*big bear hug on offer
It is so distressing to see our loved ones pile in the weight, not only joint issues but other factors such as diabetes, low self esteem etc that can follow. Sadly the pathways of mental illness are poorly understood and the treatments at best reduce symptoms to enable patients to learn how to function better.
Living grief affects us carers as life has not turned out the way that we had hoped. Frustration and anger are two little talked about emotions that we as carers often feel. These negative feelings impact our own well-being and it is essential for our own health that we get them sorted. Feeling ashamed is natural and it means you are aware of your own humanity in this situation and by owning these emotions you can then move on to learning better ways of coping. I don't think there would be one carer on this forum who feels they could have handled various situations better. I have found seeing a counselor invaluable; carer stress is well documented. Your GP can do a mental health plan which will enable you to get 10 psychology sessions which are Medicare rebateable.
If you do not access any, there are MH support services that can also assist with general support for both us and our loved ones (and with NDIS). Carers Australia also offers support. I can send you some links if you tell me what state you are in.
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