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I'm not sure thinking positive will help @ENKELI 

I'm sorry, but I don't think I am okay. 

I'll put on a funny TV show. I am talking to khl tonight, too, so I'll see how that goes. 

I feel like crying again, and I don't know why. I am sorry I'm like this. I wish I were happy. 

I'm waiting for my roommate to cook dinner, well, her breakfast. She went to bed at 6 am this morning and got up at 2:30 pm. 

 

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@creative_writer you are absolutely right.

I always joked that because my dad left and I had little to do with him growing up at least I'd never marry a man like him. Turns out I nearly did. Dad cheated on all 3 of his wives. I think the only reason he's not cheating on stepmonster (wife #3) is he's no longer capable of doing so.

I count my blessings most days, I got to travel North America for 3 months and see what I wanted to, do what I wanted to. I've been to Indonesia, Thailand and Singapore which I wouldn't have been able to had I been married. Well, you know what I mean I hope!

For now I'm happy that my Ragdoll Mal the ginger ninja is the only male who shares my bed 😁🐈

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@Birdofparadise8 how do you know unless you try? 

If you manifest thoughts they become a reality. Right now for you it's normal to think negatively. It's easier than trying to change thought patterns. 

The only way you will stop having negative thoughts and feelings is to change the way you think. 

Take the suggestions given to you and at least try them before saying you don't think they will work.

 

I adore you princess, I want you to heal and get better but it starts with you my love 👑💐💝

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Okay @ENKELI 

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I'm sorry @ENKELI 

I hope I didn't upset you. 

Positive self-talk has been really hard for me to develop. 

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@ENKELI I am glad you were able to find company in your cats. Pets make a huge difference to one’s life. I think if I were to get married I would rather own a cat (who will be our baby) first before getting a child. Hopefully the cat gets one well with my child/children if I decide to have them.

It’s cool you were able to travel. Are there places still on your list for travels?

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@Birdofparadise8 I know you're probably shocked at my response but seriously sweetie, if all you ever hear is affirmations it will not change how you feel.

I have a friend who had weight loss surgery a few years back. Ever since then she has developed depression, epilepsy, stomach problems, prostate, you name it she has it.

Every time I talked her she is always going through some bad thing. It's like she enjoys the attention she gets. It's easy to slip into the habit of "enjoying poor health" especially when you have not been given the attention you needed growing up. 

I know this from personal experience, my mum has always been harder on me than my brother and he always got opportunities I missed out on. We were poor, we didn't have money for both of us to do out of school activities so my brother got to join Cubs, Scouts and the Navy Reserve Cadets. I never asked to join anything because I knew mum couldn't afford it. 

What I did instead was jump into relationships quicker than I should have because finally I was getting attention. I ignored warning signs and took rejection badly (still do).

What I have learnt through counselling and other MH resources is to try and change my negative self talk.

I've also learnt that people tend to give up on you if you continue to be negative or act in ways that they don't like or care to be around.

 

This forum is a great place to learn from other's experiences and help improve your own MH.

I'm always going to have depression, anxiety and BP2 but by training my mind to think positive I have less sad days.

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I don't hear affirmations @ENKELI.

Are you saying I'm doing this for attention because I'm definitely not? 

"I've also learnt that people tend to give up on you if you continue to be negative or act in ways that they don't like or care to be around."

Are you saying this about me as well? That you're going to give up on me. 

I just don't know how to be positive, @ENKELI. I will try to say nice things about myself, but it just feels so fake. My psych and I haven't gone into too much detail about it, either. I have been working on the values I see in myself with KHL. 

I'm so sorry @ENKELI. I feel terrible. 

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Yes, indeed @creative_writer 🌺💜

Im ok thank you xx

How are you today? I hope the day has been going ok xx

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@creative_writer I've had cats all my life. Mum loves Siamese cats so we always had one growing up. I had a dog when I first bought my house and then got a rescue moggie, and have always had a cat since. I have 2 at the moment but Mal is my MH support cat. He is always with me when I need comfort. Gypsy my other cat loves my brother, typically male cats are drawn to female humans and vice versa. 

I'd like to go back to the US and Singapore, I'd also like to visit NZ too. I am making future plans to have something to look forward to, hopefully Singapore since it's so close to Perth and I love it.

 

How about you? Pets? Travel?

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