Not Coping

[Birdofparadise8]

I'm conducting a systematic review so to speak on other people's research to see if it's viable. We can't have them in our final three documents. @Former-Member 

Thank you. 

It's very tricky stats. 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 no, that just shows you're human 😁

[Birdofparadise8]

Mm okay. 

Sorry, I will say anything to make myself feel dumb. I literally feel like I'm a very dumb person like I had a lot of academic struggles growing up being premature. My cognitive function is a bit slow. 

I feel like it's my fault. 

People would also be mean to me because of it. They would notice when I would get extra help or leave class with others for support class. 

I feel weird being in uni like I never got an ATAR. I just have a fear that the units will get too hard and then I'll fail and I won't have done anything thing. That I'll have to go back to Hobart and work there in the hospital or something. 

Sorry that was a babble on. @ENKELI 

[Birdofparadise8]

Now I have to eat on my own I didn't think that through @ENKELI @Former-Member 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 my entire life I've been made to feel I'm not as smart or as good as my cousins. They all attended one of the most prestigious private boy's schools in Perth, went to university and got top jobs. The oldest was a pilot who married Heath Ledger's cousin, his brother did architecture and the third is an aircraft maintenance engineer. My brother who is the oldest was never good enough and it was no surprise to my aunt that I never completed my studies at the Academy and just got a job at Telstra.

Even now my aunt makes digs about my weight, she used to always go on about how attractive my ex friend and her kids were, and it was like she preferred them to me. She even invited them to stay with her in the country one school holiday.

So now I believe I am not smart or attractive and when I look at job opportunities that I know I could do I won't apply for them because the voice in my head tells me I'm not intelligent enough and I wouldn't even get an interview.

So yeah I get how you feel and now it's me rambling. Yep, it's me, I'm the problem....

You will get through it, you're smart and clever and you'll do well at uni 🥰🤗

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 what do you mean, have to eat on your own hon?

[Former-Member]

Hey there @ENKELI ☺️🌺

Thank you kindly, that’s really kind of you and I really appreciate it 🙂🤗🌺

If you ever want to start study, we can always chat here about how MH impacts engagement in education, if that might be a little bit helpful? 🙂

Then, we could share our tips and tools for how to manage.. what do you think @Birdofparadise8 🥰🌺

[Former-Member]

Gotcha @Birdofparadise8 🙌🏻🙂

I’ve done a few of these in the stats units I studied back in the day… they’re not easy, are they! however I hope that gathering underpinning info from the related references might help a bit 💜🌺🙂

Did your uni recommend a particular tool to critique the data or research? 
if you have free reign (and it yet hasn’t crossed your radar), I used to use the McMaster set of qual and quant tools 🌺🙂

[Former-Member]

I’m sorry you’ll be eating alone @Birdofparadise8 🌺💜

I take it you’ll be eating while you’re out and about before getting to the ballet? 💜

[creative_writer]

@Birdofparadise8 if it makes you feel better, I feel incredibly stupid. I wasn’t as premature, but I think I was 3 weeks premature.

Hi @Former-Member and @ENKELI how are you both doing?