I can’t cope

[tyme]

Would you ever consider moving further away from them? I know your house has sentimental value @Captain24  and your parents help with the dog vice versa... but I wonder if a bit of distance might improve the relationship?

[tyme]

Hey, when were you able to tell the future @Captain24 ?

I've always promised I'll walk beside you and I'll keep to that.

We all have ups and downs.

Maybe it's about reframing? Otherwise you may end up causing the 'doom'?

Argh @Captain24 , you're better than that hun. So much more than just a life of doom.

[Captain24]

They are getting older and I need to be here @tyme. I need to be able to do whatever they need. 

Plus the dogs 

Its not so much the future it’s past experience. 

Thank for staying with me. Are you around over Christmas? 

Maybe my psych can help. 

When I know when they are coming will also help I think. I can plan for it. I can try and organise myself and my resentment. 

I just feel like whatever way I turn things just happen and it just rocks me. 

Im really in trouble. 

[tyme]

I will have to put an announcement out soon, but peer workers are not working 25th Dec-1st Jan inclusive.

We will be around otherwise. @Captain24 

But really @Captain24 , I've known you for a long time. I don't think you have the hear to leave your family. As you've mentioned in the past, they don't necessarily know how to show it, but as a family, you know your parents care. 

I've mentioned before about my own family. I do my duty as a daughter, and I know we all care, but small doses only. 

I'll be seeing them in the new year for about 2 weeks... and yes, I know I will have to do my duty. I just put up with them talking at me. 

I care, we care, they care, but as I said, small doses only.

I think boundaries come from within as well as without. If you make up your mind about how much you let them affect your mind, then there's a limit and that's it.

[Jynx]

@Captain24 😋

I gotta skedaddle hun, but pls know I do hear you, and we can catch up over weekend if you're around 💜

[Captain24]

That’s what I thought @tyme. Everyone deserves a break. 

Oh the family holiday. Wasn’t it 4 weeks last year? Are you working while away or taking time off? 

Hopefully I can be strong enough. I did ok on holidays when the came to dinner. This will be different though as I’ll be around him 24/7. I don’t even like him. I hate being in the same town let alone the same house. 

How do you go being with your sister all the time? 

I feel sick. 

[tyme]

Lol, yes, it was about 4 weeks last year! @Captain24 Killer.

I reckon 2 weeks is not enough to see all my relos in Sydney. A lot of my cousins now have kids so the kids get together.

As for being close to my sister, we argue and cut each other to bits, but we don't hold grudges. We just move on.

And I guess she's careful coz I help a lot with the kids.

Like this arvo, I cleaned the kids after school and got them ready for their school concert. I didn't go, but because I was home, I got them ready. Sometimes I pick the kids up from school and I babysit them.

As for your family. Just accept it as your duty. No one says you have to like anyone. You do you and they do them. Don't expect too much from them or you'll be disappointed.

[Captain24]

You didn’t answer my question so I’m guessing it’s a yes. @tyme 

Do all your relos get together often? I don’t see mine. Not all my cousins even know each other. 

I guess she needs you. I use to help my brother with his daughter when he lived at home and she was little. He would respond to texts and ask for help if he needed. 

I guess if I think of it as a duty then hopefully maybe I can do it. Maybe they won’t even come. I’m hoping that he doesn’t bring his daughter. My duty will wear out very quickly. 

Im pretty sure I’m getting discharged from Comm health tomorrow so i wont even have them to fall back on for support. 

[tyme]

Sorry, you mean the question about working while away? Yes yes! I'd be lost without you and all my forums family. I need to plan ahead for the end of 2025 because I'm going overseas with my sister and family and I'll be away for about 6-8 weeks (not entirely sure yet). And no, I can't access the forums overseas. @Captain24 So I really need to plan ahead about how I'll keep sane. Otherwise I might cut the trip short and just come back myself.

As for my relos, I hardly ever see them. I see my parents once a year (if even), let alone the relos. I have cousins that live in Singapore, America, UK and I don't know where else. I think i've shared before that we are very multicultural - Russian, Chinese, Dutch, English, Sri Lankan, Indian, Singaporean, Spanish, etc...

And yes, I reckon if you set it in your mind that it's a 'job' you have to do for a time, then it'll be easier to bear.

I can't believe the time already! Hope you will be around tomorrow to chat? 

[Captain24]

I haven’t done anything productive in the last 2 days but I have done these @Ru-bee @tyme @Jynx