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16 May 2025 12:00 PM
16 May 2025 12:00 PM
Hi @Till23
I just wanted to let you know my thoughts are with you on this incredibly tough day for you. Be kind to yourself and im around if you want to chat.
16 May 2025 01:16 PM
16 May 2025 01:16 PM
Thanks @MJG017
I am trying to do as much as I can with him today, despite the weather and he has had some of the food which he really emjoys
16 May 2025 01:41 PM
16 May 2025 01:41 PM
@Till23 It must be so difficult right now, but he's with the person he loves and you've given him a good life. Ultimately, that's is what matters.
25 May 2025 05:24 PM
25 May 2025 05:24 PM
Hey @MJG017 how are you going?
I feel as though I am over the acute stages of loss of my dog. I don't "hear" him as much and I hardly ever "see" him now, so I have come to some kind of acceptance. I still think about him of course.
I think about you a bit too and especially when they announced Biden had prostate cancer.
I will be away for a few weeks as I'm going overseas with my sport, a mixed team from around Australia. I will be leaving the week after next. I'm just letting you know, in case you are wondering why you haven't seen me around, or I haven't responded to a tag. I will be back very late June.
Tomorrow I am having my follow-up mammogram and ultrasound, but I won't know the results until I get back from trip. It's kind of good because I can just have the trip without having to think about anything, if the results are bad. If they are good, it would be nice to know before I go I suppose. I am expecting results to be good, so I've decided to just not think about it!
25 May 2025 06:29 PM
25 May 2025 06:29 PM
I'm not really sure how i'm doing. I feel like i want to fight, but that i'm doing it alone. I'm trying to just accept that there's no choice but to wait until i'm stage 4 before anything more can be done and just hope that something comes alone. It's a hard thing to accept and I feel like its very close to the end by then, especially after being told chemo isn't likely to be much more effective than the hormone therapies were. I'm just trying to keep going on as normal. There are good days and bad days of course. I had a PET scan yesterday ready for my next MO appointment on the 5th June. Not that i'm expecting it to show anything yet. I think he's just getting me to do it to keep me happy. I have no idea. The inevitability of everything just feels so heavy hanging over me at the moment. The prostate nurse who helps us with the group works at GenesisCare and suggested i get a referral to go and speak to the radonc who treated me before. Apparently he's very 'nerdy' about it all and is right up with all the current trials and things so that's my next plan. She suggested waiting until i get the PET scan and then ask the MO to refer me back to this radonc for a little extra info. So i'll do that. If he says no or feels it isn't warranted, i'll ask my GP.
You don't ever forget about your pets obviously, but at least you've started to get that acceptance, which i know is painful still, but will make things easier. I know you're expecting good results from these tests, but i'll say good luck anyway.
I hope you have a great trip. It sounds like a lot of fun... going overseas to play sport. A bit jealous. 😁
25 May 2025 06:35 PM
25 May 2025 06:35 PM
Hey @MJG017 ,
I'm sorry to hear how hard it is. It sounds like uncertainty is so real for you at the moment, and no matter what you do, you feel you are walking this alone.
Is there something you feel the community here can do to make it easier for you?
You've always been there to support others so it's important that we do our best to support you too.
25 May 2025 07:04 PM
25 May 2025 07:04 PM
Thanks@tyme
Honestly, if I knew what anyone could do, I would ask in a second. I just don't know what options are left at the moment, but to wait for things to progress and then hope there's time for any options then. I just don't really now what to do, think, or feel at the moment. So I just try to distract myself as much as possible and keep myself occupied. I really have no idea what else I can do... but wait and try not to think about what's coming.
25 May 2025 07:08 PM
25 May 2025 07:08 PM
Hi @tyme - @MJG017 may have ideas about how people on the forums could support him more, especially since I will be away for approximately three weeks shortly.
I have been chatting with @MJG017 since I found out he had cancer which came about when we were supporting another member and I declared my cancer diagnoses and then so did MJG017 and we started this thread.
It is difficult for people who have not had cancer to really understand what it's like and we don't need to explain everything to each other because we know about the tests and treatments.
My father also passed away from the same cancer less than a year ago, and I cared for him at home until the very end.
Of course, other people on the forums may have had cancer, I already know there are other people and had very brief chats about it. Some people having had cancer just want to move on and people who have had family members with it may not want to revisit it either. It's a difficult topic for many.
@MJG017 it's up to you of course.
26 May 2025 09:27 PM
26 May 2025 09:27 PM
Hi @MJG017 how are you going today?
26 May 2025 09:37 PM
26 May 2025 09:37 PM
Oops pressed the post button too early on that last post @MJG017 but anyhow, how are you going today? I have had an interesting day, but not necessarily in a particularly good interesting way.
I went off to have my imaging this morning. I told them about my PET scan findings and they did take a while going over that area with ultrasound probe. The ultrasonographer told me that she couldn't see anything in that area, but have to wait for radiologist. However, she spent ages and took lots of still images of the other side, I think even more than when I had caner on that side and at the end she didn't say anything about that side. So I thought could be nothing, or she's not saying anything because technically they can't, have to wait for comparison with last images by radiologist.
Then I'm at a presentation my sport club were giving at another organisation. I can hear my phone ringing in the pocket of my jacket. Then the ding of a message being received. So I'm thinking I hope that's not the imaging place trying to recall me.
I had to wait another 30mins until I could check the message on phone.
Turns out it was the vet. They were ringing me to say my dogs ashes were ready to pick up.
I felt a bit sad putting his ashes in the car. But he is beside my other dog now on a shelf, so they are together again.
So, I just have to resolve to not think about the imaging while I'm away.
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