05-12-2018 11:05 PM
Ms S prefers to have as low key as possible Christmas but also yearns to be with her family at these times so we travel interstate every second year to have Christmas Eve with her family - and other years stay home and see my family ... the alternating between families has been an unbreakable rule for 21 yrs now and I think this routine at least is predictable and we don’t have anticipation over deciding what to do each year ... Ms S got us a little Christmas tree today as a surprise as if mentioned I nearly got one bit felt bad to spend $$ ... can’t wait to set it up together ... how does mr D cope at Christmas ?? Do you have a routine ?
06-12-2018 08:17 AM
Having an alternating plan makes a lot of sense @Sophie1. We don't live near any family and haven't done for years.
We get together for lunch with "Christmas orphans" - others in the same boat as us who don't have family around.
Christmas eve we have 3 or 4 older blokes with little or no family about who live on their own over for a meal. They have hearty appetites and there is plenty of talking.
Mr Darcy finds a lot of things difficult and things he struggles with things such as a lack of friends and sense of belonging are highlighted at this time of the year.
07-12-2018 09:56 PM
Hi @Darcy and @Shaz51 today Ms S was in bed all day with headache again ... a friend of mine had a tough week and was really down and I was worried for them so I decided to take a day trip and go visit my friend who needed a cheer up ... this meant not working today and leaving Ms S at home alone .. it was a good call to visit friend they really appreciated it and we had a good catch up - however I’m really exhausted now and feeling a bit drained ... tomorrow is early Christmas catch up with my dad and step mum - I hope it’s an easy day and I’m not too tired - feeling weary
08-12-2018 07:25 AM
I do hope today is relaxing for you. Do you think you will get your tree up this weekend?
08-12-2018 08:30 AM
@Darcy Tree will need to go up tomorrow ... I can’t wait I’m very excited I love a Christmas tree
09-12-2018 05:29 PM
Hope get together yesterday went smoothly @Sophie1.
Was Ms S up to decorating the tree today?
@Shaz51 @Darcy @Determined Well silly season is here - Christmas work functions , work deadlines and family and friends functions left right and center !!!! Christmas tree went up and our cat body slammed it over lol and started eating the artificial branches ... so now Christmas tree hangs upside down from curtain rod he he out of reach !! Functions are going well so far and myself and Ms S are exhausted tho as we both find socialising tiring ... one more week and then we drive interstate for Ms S family time ... Ms S still has constant headache and we were at doctor this morning - MRI is clear which is great and bloods were mostly ok just cholesterol up a tad ... so now we wait for neurologist in early jan and it’s pain management until then ... overall tho we are ok for this time of year - how are all of you ??... I will peruse your respective threads and check in on your recent activities ... bye x
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