01-05-2017 06:48 PM
Hi everyone, I am hoping to get support and advice from other carers. I have been a carer since I was 10 for my mother, then my husband and also my daughter. My mum is 94 and now in a aged care home but relies only on me. My husband passed away. My daughter is 29 and has an intellectual disability, depression and anxiety.
It has all finally caught up with me and I am suffering from depression. I do not work. My daughter has been living out of home for two years and I am considering moving her back home because I don't seem to be able to look after myself, only someone else.
I really would love to hear from other long term carers to see if what I am going through has been experienced by others and they could offer me some advice.
02-05-2017 02:01 AM
You say you don't work. I say otherwise. You might not have paid employment but it sounds like you've never stopped working since you were ten.
You deserve a medal! 🥇I'm amazed it's only caught up with you now and there's little wonder you are depressed. What an incredible caring person you must be.
02-05-2017 12:19 PM
02-05-2017 05:36 PM
02-05-2017 05:53 PM
you wrote ; I really would love to hear from other long term carers to see if what I am going through has been experienced by others and they could offer me some advice., I am hoping to get support and advice from other carers.
what kind of advice were you looking for , self care ? or , there is a thread called hints and tips for carers , but I am sure you could add some tips there for other carers
02-05-2017 05:58 PM
@JoJo99, I've tagged you over at the Hot Chocolate forum. You should get an email that you can click on and be directed there. Otherwise, type "hot chocolate" into the search bar. We have some fun over there and you would be most welcome.
03-05-2017 12:24 AM
03-05-2017 12:44 AM
No need to apologise @JoJo99 .... I hadn't used a forum before finding this one either, and it takes a little bit of time and a few patiently answered questions to find your way around .... perfectly not all and fine .... 😊
There ought to be a text box at the bottom of the page if you are on a phone, or click on the Reply button attached to the bottom of the previous post .... it doesn't matter particularly whether that was the perish you wanted to reply to or not ... it will still open a text box for you.
Have a play with it and see how you go ...
Sorry you're having such a hard time with your daughter tonight. I hope you get to sleep .....
I went for a couple of long walks today after some strife with my darling hubby yesterday and today, and now my eyes are rolling around in my head a bit with tiredness catching up on me, so I'm gonna say goodnight now, but there might be a few others from the west still on Hot Chocolate if you pop in there ....
G'night .... 😴💤
03-05-2017 12:52 AM
@JoJo99 - the "search the forum bar" might be at the top of the screen depending on what device you are using. I'm on an iPad at the moment. It's a long white horizontal rectangle with a little magnifying glass to the right of it. You will need to scroll up.
Your daughter seems particularly needy tonight. Is there a particular problem that she has that she is calling you about?
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