Looking after ourselves
Ooooh, I can so relate! 😛
Had a do-nothing day yesterday, had a got-a-little-bit-done day today. Namely pulling some unwanted paper stuff out from under the table that's going to older daughter's house. Most of that will disappear into the woodstove when I light it this evening. Grabbed out a few bits of rubbish that can head for the bin too. And there's some gardening magazines that I don't think I want. I'll give them a cursory glance over, and if not, they can go to the neighbourhood house book swap shelves.
Have also cleaned out underneath the bunny pens and put some mulchy stuff underneath them to catch their fertiliser deposits, and put the cleaned out stuff into some big plastic pots to use on the spring veggies. We've got another trip to my parents' house next week, and I'd prefer the bunnies weren't too smelly for the friend who will be feeding them.
Not much happening here at the moment, because we've been busy helping out Older Son. Older Daughter didn't cope with cleaning up when she moved out of the place they were sharing. Older Son has had to take on most of the housework while they were sharing, and that plus all the emergencies plus the difficult background behaviours have left his anxiety sky high, so he wasn't managing to tackle the rather big clean-up himself... so the place was looking messy, and he got a breach notice from the agents. 
It wasn't just the rooms she was using, the shared spaces and his bedroom were messy too. So we've de-cobwebbed and de-mildewed and cleaned windows and walls and ovens and stovetops and benchtops, and packed all sorts of stuff in boxes into empty wardrobes. He's been tackling whatever he could cope with, and feeling bad about not being able to do more. I keep telling him relax... we get it. Inspection is tomorrow, cleaining is down to last things like sweeping, mopping and vacuuming, which he's pretty confident he can do himself. There's some issues which are actually the owners' problem. One mildew-y wall turned out to have a water leak getting in, so we'll be pointing that out to the agent. Responsibility goes both ways.
I think he'll manage OK looking after the place now that he's got the chance at a fresh start. The stuff in the wardobes will need to come out for proper sorting at some stage, but that can wait until the present stress is over and he's more in a state of mind to deal with it.
Am kinda frustrated that he's put so much energy into helping his sister, but she's very chatty/articulate, and he's not (very intelligent, but not articulate), so people get the impression that she's the one keeping things in order. More to the point, she needs to feel "in control", but that's not the same thing. And the place she's moved into is very very full up with all her craft stuff. We're trying to discourage her from buying more so that she uses up her current very big supply, but she's not good at saying no to herself. Hoping she's not the next one to get a breach notice.
