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13-09-2018 05:50 AM
13-09-2018 05:50 AM
The ups and downs
The ups and downs of depression suck. They happen suddenly, one minute i can be totally happy and the next be in a dark place. I have a hard time expressing my feelings. I only have my husband to talk to which can be hard. I don't want to hurt him. Any suggestions?
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13-09-2018 08:34 AM
13-09-2018 08:34 AM
Re: The ups and downs
Kodee,
These feelings are common, know that. You are never alone, as your heart contains an all knowing love. Sometimes I give myself a hug, and I can feel this love. Any time you need to be loved, do this (or imagine yourslf doing this if you are in public). Eventually you will have the ability to send yourself this love, and then send it in a spsiritually way to people whom you feel connected to. this will lift you up! It took me 50 years to learn this. (I amy best friend). Sending you love right now!
Wendy
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13-09-2018 01:08 PM
13-09-2018 01:08 PM
Re: The ups and downs
Hi @Kodee,
I suffer from major depressive disorder and can totally understand where you are coming from. I have my husband as a main support for me and I find it extremely hard to talk to him about things, especially when it comes to self harm and suicidal thoughts. I am slowly beginning to open up to him. One things he said to me was that he worries more about me when I don't tell him, so I am trying to be more honest with him.
Do you have any other supports at all?
Have you thought about couple counselling?
Snowie
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13-09-2018 03:05 PM
13-09-2018 03:05 PM
Re: The ups and downs
Hello @Kodee, @pennee_l, @Snowie
I was mentally / emotionally abused when i was young ( but that is another story )
My husband suffers from major depressive disorder like @Snowie said but now has been diagnosed with bipolar 11 and can totally understand where you are coming from.
he is slowly beginning to open up to me , but he leaves it for a long time before he tells me .
I worry more when he does not tell me things straight away as I can see things building up in him giving him more anxiety and panic attacks
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13-09-2018 03:24 PM
13-09-2018 03:24 PM
Re: The ups and downs
I know i keep things in so i don't burden my husband.
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13-09-2018 03:26 PM
13-09-2018 03:26 PM
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Snowie, we have done some couples counseling with the lady i meet with every 2 weeks. It helps some. I know my husbands the same, he worries when i dont talk. I dont want to talk to my grandma, shes been through alot lately.
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13-09-2018 03:27 PM
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13-09-2018 03:36 PM
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one idea i was thinking was to say to your husband that you find it hard to talk at times
and maybe if you can tell him what you would like your husband to do at these times
when my husband is low and does not want to talk , we will sit together holding hands and watch some shows we taped
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13-09-2018 03:37 PM
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13-09-2018 04:34 PM
13-09-2018 04:34 PM
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@Shaz51hungs hun, your hubby is lucky to have you
@KodeeI understand how it feels like to burden your hubby, I feel exaclty the same way.
Something that helps me is that if I write it down for him. Saying it to his face is hard and uncomfortable, so I write down things, walk out of the room and then he reads it. He comes to me after reading it and we talk about the parts I am comfortable with. Perhaps it is worth trying this.