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Seeking mutual support from carers

Re: Seeking mutual support from carers

Hey @Bella1978 the tiles I did were attached to a backing. I went looking to see if I could find the sort of things we made, and discovered that yes, it is now called mosaicing! Well then, i was going to say 'who knew', but you did! Robot LOL 

I agree that seeing other crafts kicks the inspiration into gear, for sure. 

Glad your mum went to the gp with you. I am not a carer anymore, have done that work previously for a time though. 

The important thing to remember, to really understand, is that it's not YOU they are acting badly toward, even if it's directed at you. It's the situation they are angry at and with. Angry, frustrated with the conditions they have found themselves in, especially if once they were active and able and oh so capable, the change from being able to do for yourself to having to ask someone to help you with small things and big things is so humiliating. So humiliating. 

With your mum too, given her age and the state of things around mental health in the distant past, she will be very afraid of 'being locked up' in an institute. The best information you could probably tell her about that not being a possiblity (as long as it's true for her situation) is that there simply isn't enough beds in mental hospitals for them to keep her there for very long. 

Very basic fact is what might reach her to be able to satisfactorily shift her perpective on when it's a good time to ask for help. If she knows 'they' are going to help her get stable, then let her come home, it is liikely to help her come to terms with accepting the help she needs. 

@outlander some of this might be relevant to how gnarly your pop can be too, which I'm actually sure you already know! 

I know myself how really, really hard it is to ask for help with the physical things I can no longer do due to health impacts because I was so active, so independent.  I'm learning to ask before lifting things that are too heavy now though! 

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thank you for meantioning me and also explainng those @Former-Member i try not to let his action etc get to me sometimes it gets hard and draining but learning on the job so to speak

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these little fellows are rather cute and made me smile (esp since they are smiling too) i hope they make you smile too @Bella1978

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@outlander
Just waiting for images to clear.
Sorry me quiet tonight luv, just reading.
How r u sweets?
Xxxx

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y'know you dont have to apologise for being quiet @Bella1978 it is perfecly fine

what are you reading? 

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@outlander
A book on emotional eating luv - something i do!

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oh yes sorry i do remember you telling me that i think only last night @Bella1978

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@outlander
U doing ok luv?

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yeh im ok @Bella1978 thanks. glad todays nearly over 

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Long day for you @outlander!
Still waiting for pics lol

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